Month: January 2018

“Sports do not develop character…”


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Jim Davis, Good Athlete Project

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In these days and age where it is so easy and simple to pass the buck. The responsibility falls upon those wise enough to have learned the lessons yet kind enough to pass them onto the next generation of rising stars. Whether we want to accept the truth or not, the psychology of discomfort dictates that every single training stimulus can and will invoke a physical AND an emotional response in every athlete. What happens immediately afterwards can set a path for positive response or down a negative road. Coaching, mentoring and parenting success relies on our foresight and ability to calmly prepare them up for temporary failure, set them up to fail. So when they do, a golden opportunity presents itself for them to look us in the eyes. It is in the “flash point” that we can coach ‘em up on just how to effectively address their next courses of action. We can build a relationship, trust and ignite their confidence in volunteering to choose the harder road of more adversity. Or left to their own devices, many times they will back down and crawl into a hole of avoidance. Their psychomotor responses at these junctures can and will shape & mold either a RISING or a falling star!

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“Fertilize Life, Live & Learn”


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My Dearest Raider,

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One of the most difficult things of being a parent is knowingly walking away and allowing you as many opportunities to make mistakes, to learn and to grow stronger. i’ve tried to impart as much of the wisdom as i can that i’ve had seared into my soul from countless bad decisions and consequentially the lessons learned. Its never easier from the uneasy looks that you give me when i let your hand go…the wide-eye shock that you throw my way when someone is asking you a question that you don’t know the answer to…the teary-eyed excitement as i push you away to go explore on your own in unexplored adventures. Just know that inside i was feeling the exact same ways, but i hid it much better than you. Because i know 2 things that are difficult for you to understand right now, but will soon begin to. Firstly, lessons learned can only happen when you are courageous enough to make mistakes, to get outside of control. You learn to recognize your ever-changing boundaries, what happens when you do and where to go from there. It is a necessity. The lessons learned grow strong from an emotional fertilizer. Discomforts spawn real emotions like sadness, anger, despair, joy, happiness and such. Feeling these is the first step to learning to positively deal with them. Your mind then has more tangible roots to plant so as to remember these lessons for future recall. Secondly, life and experiences have taught me that you take it all with a grain of salt because everything works out in the end. Bumps, scrapes, bruises and all will heal, but you come out of the other end with stories that eventually end with laughter and chuckles. Without the courage to live life, your journey will be boring, devoid of emotion, lacking in character or substance. We are constantly on the look out for your safety, health & well being. But, we also know that in order to live an amazing life you will need the skillsets to courageously embrace the unknown, to curiously ask what’s on the other side, and in spite of all of our perceived fears to passionately embrace your thirst to live.

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“My parents taught me honesty, truth, compassion, kindness and how to care for people. Also, they encouraged me to take risks, to boldly go. They taught me that the greatest danger in life is not taking the adventure.” ~ Brian Blessed

 

Love Always,

Your Dadda

 

Lop-sided smile


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My Dearest Raider,

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My hope is that you look back on your childhood with an affectionately lopsided smile. Firstly, this should emanate from recognizing that the legacy that you are flourishing in was planted well before we were blessed with you. The hard work and efforts of others, many of whom would never know that you were to come, have spouted leafy branches to give you shade. Secondly, the downward slope of your half-smile is a badge of honor earned and you should learn to wear it proudly. It is built upon the confidence of all of your hard work & efforts and all of the discomforts & adversities overcome to climb the branches above you to see what’s beyond. Sometimes they’re hard to reach, extremely difficult to climb and falling is an inevitability. But the beautiful examples of “just keep climbing” within your current circle are endless. From day 1 you have only known a championship culture that thrives to challenge you, to build hardiness and strength of character. This forces you to recognize and to expect nothing short of AMAZING from yourself. You are still too young to completely grasp the world that you live in as evidenced by the conversations that i get to overhear between you and your friends. “i HAD to workout with my friend Tony (5x World Champion Antonio Tarver​) in the Dirty 05:30 Team…i HAD to have fart gun wars before workouts with Michael (Phelps), Ryan (Lochte), Pernille (Blume), Anthony (Ervin)…i HAD to go to my Dadda’s work where his “military” friends take me to the boom-boom range…i HAD to go see Teddy Dupay​ who teaches me basketball…last but not in the very least, i HAD to go train with all of our amazing friends at HERO Initiative​ who display shining, bright examples of just good peoples doing good things day in and day out.

Again, not that we all expect you to fully grasp this now, but one day recognize all of our efforts in some way, shape, form and fashion benefit you in your life as expectations and the habits that you are subconsciously building. But even further, use it all as examples of how you will take future leadership roles. A cheat sheet of experiences outlining how to live a life of leadership-by-example in the circles that you choose to expand in your life.

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Lastly, the upswing of your lopsided smile will eventually come from your view from atop of the canopy. Many will look up and wonder how you magically got up there. “It must be luck, wizardry, filipino privilege and such.” they will say. But only you will know just how much others have invested in you, just how much you have invested in yourself and most importantly how much all of that will mean to someone looking up to you. So that one day you can look into their eyes when they feel the pressure of obligation and say to them, “its not only ‘i HAD to’ but also the opportunity of ‘i GET to’ that allowed me a glorious view from the top.”! Learn to balance both and never, ever forget that…

i Love you Always,

Your Dadda

“Naturally there are going to be some ups and downs, particularly if you have some individuals trying to achieve at a high level…when a pressure situation presented itself, we were plugged into one another as a cohesive unit. That’s why we were able to win, and that’s why we were able to beat more talented teams.” ~ Michael Jordan.

“Don’t be a D-K!”


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“What’s particularly interesting is that those with the least ability are often the most likely to overrate their skills to the greatest extent…People measurably poor all tend to rate their expertise almost as favorably as experts do…”
 
i came across this good YouTube video on Ted-Ed “The Psychology Behind Why Incompetent People Think They’re Amazing:” which describes the Dunning-Kruger (D-K) Effect. Firstly, i’m posting this as educational reference material to the practicals that i presented at the ’17 Power Athlete Symposium. Secondly, just like the video presents, i constantly reiterate that everyone in some capacity in most arenas in our lives, fall victim to this psychological phenomena of the D-K Effect. i presented this and the coaching tools that we regularly utilize to create “mirror moments” that allow athletes and coaches to gain a better grasp just how far off that we are. These are opportunities to close the gap between our perception and reality as we constantly measure it against desired positive-behaviors (skills) in the arenas.
 
When done correctly, athletes questioning themselves create highly valuable coaching tools: Why can’t I do this? Why do I suck at this? Why is this so hard? These questioning statements become great opportunities to open the door to adjustments, course corrections and re-framing of their psychomotor-drives at many levels. Especially in training we have a tendency to allow people to do ONLY what they are good at, mostly because we want them to feel good about themselves and because S&C has become a mainstream business. But what is getting lost is the trade-off of the inevitable emotional let-down of failures when it counts the most, the fruits of all of our labors isn’t as sweet as we thought that it was going to be. As coaches we get far removed from game day competitions and consequentially we often put our own personal enthusiasms and goals onto the athletes. There is a constant cost-benefit analysis on time, energy and risk as it compares to the paramount skill acquisition. Chasing a 5-10lb increase on a Hang Clean…a Bench Press…a Back Squat…a Dead Lift… are all great challenges and their achievement fires up any true S&C coach. But we must never, ever forget the waters that must be treaded in by all involved. A novice is splashing a dashing in the kiddie pool, having fun with anything and everything. Watching the exuberance in their eyes, their parents’ eyes and such brings joy to all as the relative safety is not much of a concern. As the “floaties” come off, as the athletes grow older-bigger-stronger and experienced in the weight room, they must move out into the middle of the pool where there is an ever-increasing risk of sink or swim. There is ALWAYS an exponentially rising threat of catastrophic injuries accompanied with an exponential increasing amount of time and energy required to raise heavier PRs once outside of novice levels. There is exponentially increasing time devoted to chasing weight room record boards that is oftentimes sacrificed and taken away from chasing skill perfection of specific sports skills. So, a change in the culture of S&C and its business must occur. The cyclical and comprehensive preparation from birth to death must be an overarching emulsifier.
 
The antecedent is developing strong habits to carry over into arenas and beyond. Regardless of the dimensions and talents blessed with, the long-range outcome should always be to build highly effective, over-achieving athletes who have forged sustainability over the long haul and who constantly build reliability with their teammates. All of these habitual skills can be carried over if you hear the call of Ares and choose a HERO’s (Highly Effective Rescue & Operator) professional life or within the not-so-friendly confines of the board room. IMG_5995When all is said and done, a lifetime of justifiable sacrifices & experiences leans heavily on these fundamental skills. An arch angel of a program necessitates a reintroduction to normalcy of family fitness, health and well-being. It is at these late-in-the-game moments that we truly recognize the dramatic importance of the quality and emotional driver of every single rep, set and training session. Because, the potential of hardiness of the seedlings that are being planted is proven to be well established at conception. As well, the next generation of rising stars are star-gaze watching us, imprinting our behaviors and our actions into their own plug & play queue. This in turn becomes their subconscious responses, their courses of action, the decision-making ammunition for themselves as well as the generation that they in turn will build…