My Dearest Raider,
One of the most difficult things of being a parent is knowingly walking away and allowing you as many opportunities to make mistakes, to learn and to grow stronger. i’ve tried to impart as much of the wisdom as i can that i’ve had seared into my soul from countless bad decisions and consequentially the lessons learned. Its never easier from the uneasy looks that you give me when i let your hand go…the wide-eye shock that you throw my way when someone is asking you a question that you don’t know the answer to…the teary-eyed excitement as i push you away to go explore on your own in unexplored adventures. Just know that inside i was feeling the exact same ways, but i hid it much better than you. Because i know 2 things that are difficult for you to understand right now, but will soon begin to. Firstly, lessons learned can only happen when you are courageous enough to make mistakes, to get outside of control. You learn to recognize your ever-changing boundaries, what happens when you do and where to go from there. It is a necessity. The lessons learned grow strong from an emotional fertilizer. Discomforts spawn real emotions like sadness, anger, despair, joy, happiness and such. Feeling these is the first step to learning to positively deal with them. Your mind then has more tangible roots to plant so as to remember these lessons for future recall. Secondly, life and experiences have taught me that you take it all with a grain of salt because everything works out in the end. Bumps, scrapes, bruises and all will heal, but you come out of the other end with stories that eventually end with laughter and chuckles. Without the courage to live life, your journey will be boring, devoid of emotion, lacking in character or substance. We are constantly on the look out for your safety, health & well being. But, we also know that in order to live an amazing life you will need the skillsets to courageously embrace the unknown, to curiously ask what’s on the other side, and in spite of all of our perceived fears to passionately embrace your thirst to live.
“My parents taught me honesty, truth, compassion, kindness and how to care for people. Also, they encouraged me to take risks, to boldly go. They taught me that the greatest danger in life is not taking the adventure.” ~ Brian Blessed